Here at small2TALL we talk a lot about raising men into God-fearing gentlemen, but we have daughters too. And we need to instill the right values in them as well. I, myself, have a daughter and two step-daughters. Two of them are teenagers and one will be soon enough. It’s equally important that I teach and guide them as well as my sons and step-sons. That thought has recently led me to the selfie craze. This may, on the surface seem like a topic that isn’t even worth discussing. I can’t even count how many times, in response to this issue, I’ve heard “What’s the big deal? They’re all doing it these days.” And if you don’t dig deep, it’s easy to leave it there. But, as men of God and intentional fathers, we have to dig deep. So, let’s look at selfies. (pun intended)
The other response I hear a lot in response to selfies is “It doesn’t really hurt anything”. If you agree, you should take a look at the study “Tagger’s delight? Disclosure and liking in Facebook: the effects of sharing photographs amongst multiple known social circles” Houghton, David and Joinson, Adam and Caldwell, Nigel and Marder, Ben (2013). This study shows that overuse of selfies can actually damage real-life relationships. That’s not a hard statement to wrap your mind around. If you know someone who is constantly posting pictures of herself to gather comments and praise from friends, you probably have already felt how it can damage a real-life relationship. Those that repeatedly post pictures on social media sites are seen as self-centered and shallow. That’s not how I want to raise my daughters, or how I want the world to view them.
As fathers, and as men of God, we have a responsibility to teach our daughters what to do and what not to do. I mentioned earlier that the purpose of posting selfies is to fish for affirmation of beauty. We need to be teaching our daughters what true beauty is. That beauty comes from within. That God created them to think much more of themselves than to try to fish for compliments on the Internet. We need to see them, and teach them to see themselves from God’s eyes. As His creations. As His daughters. As His princesses.
And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. Phillipians 4:8.
You can’t see that in a selfie.
Walking tall through Christ,